Prep group - 3rd and final day

After the weekend "off" (we both worked both days so not really off) it was really nice to get back to the group. We both felt that we were learning lots and really enjoying the experience.

We did an interesting session on loss and changes. Amazing to think about all that a child will loose and  the amount of changes they go through. But also how much we will go through too.

Then there was a great talk by two adoptive parents both at different stages. Really good to hear about the future and realities. Lovely people with great stories. We then had a talk from an adopted person. This was really powerful, with some really inspiring stories. It is great to hear about how adoption was such a positive experience for her. The thing that she said that was really emotive was that we "should be proud of ourselves" I found it a really powerful statement.

We are proud of ourselves and having taken part int he prep group it all now seems more real and the children seem more important ... It may sound silly but for the first part we have been doing home visits talking about ourselves not really thinking about children.

The main positives from the course for us have been:
Thinking about birth parents perspective and how important contact can be if appropriate
Being more child focused. Having seen a child we want to be considered for it has really focused our minds.
Finding a support group of couples who are at the same stage as us.

All in all it was an amazing experiences with a huge amount of information that will stay with us forever.

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