A post about nothing

I have no news apart from we have no news!

Haven't heard anything from SW so no new matches. We have another month to wait before we can go on the national register so can't be proactive yet. Keep trying to say to ourselves (and everyone who asks) that actually it's a good thing and we're really busy with work so we're happy to wait but we really want a kid. We are volunteering at pre school and primary school and this morning I drove past Ben walking with two kids holding his hand and it floored me - felt so overwhelmed with emotion about seeing him as a dad. Actually makes me feel teary thinking about it again whilst I type.

We are also meeting up this weekend with our friends from prep group. One couple have their son who we'll meet for the first time (!) the others are going to matching panel next week and fostering panel the week after to get two brothers (adopt one and foster other as he's new born and may go back to birth family). We really are thrilled for them and their new families but it does also make us very inpatient - keep trying to tell myself to relax about it but its really tough.

Anyway - enough nothingness back to looking up kids bedroom designs on Pinterest!

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