24th of May is a big date for us

Today is our one year anniversary. This time last year we were sitting down to a stunning lunch in London with our parents and best friends. It was a stunningly hot day and we were very happy young men (youngish). This year - about the same time we get a call from our SW about a potential match. Hands up who believe in fate?

We haven't heard from our new SW since panel 5 weeks ago as she is part of the senior management team and there has been a lot going on in the department. We were ok with the break but had just started to wonder how long we'd have to wait for contact. Then it happens.

There are a lot of questions to be asked about this little one and we know little about them apart from the basics but our SW is dropping off the report tonight so we can read it over and see what we think. It's funny, we met a lady in our village who has a young boy that she adopted a few years ago and last night we caught up with her properly and after talking to her it made me feel that I wanted something to happen and that I was getting a little impatient ... And then, well who knows. We have learnt to be cautious after the older boy we looked at. I think it will make reading this report easier in someways as we know what to expect as far as layout and type of info it will contain.

It's so hard not to get over excited and run around shouting it from the roof tops. But we're not, we're at work TRYING to be normal. I'll be honest 6.30 can't come soon enough just so we an have all the info available.

Deep breath .... And carry on.

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